Your Calm is the Key to Their Calm
I’m Ellen, and I help adoptive and foster moms come home to their own calm. Drawing on neuroscience-based approaches like BWRT® and Somatic Experiencing®, I guide you out of survival mode and into steady, confident connection. As a licensed massage therapist, I also offer bodywork alongside this somatic work — because sometimes the nervous system needs to be met through touch, not just talk. It’s all grounded in my own lived experience as an adoptive mom, for moms who need their whole body, not just their mind, to feel safe again.
I Get It – Because I’ve Lived It
I know what it’s like to be an adoptive mom — the guilt, exhaustion, the feeling that no one really understands. I also know what it’s like to search for answers and find that most advice doesn’t touch the real problem: your nervous system.
That’s why I trained in neuroscience-based therapies like BWRT® and Somatic Experiencing (SE™). I combine my professional expertise with my lived experience to help moms like you move out of survival mode and into calm, confidence, and connection.
This isn’t about “fixing” your child. It’s about supporting you — because when your nervous system resets, everything changes.
Credentials & Training
Ellen J May, LMT, SEP™
Licensed Massage Therapist MA60861804
Somatic Experiencing® Practitioner (SEP™)
BWRT® Practitioner
Parenting as an Adoptive or Foster Mom isn’t the Same as “Ordinary” Parenting
The truth is, love alone doesn’t erase trauma — and no matter how much you give, you can still feel exhausted, guilty, and at breaking point.
When you understand what’s happening in your nervous system, real change becomes possible — and lasting calm stops feeling out of reach.
That’s exactly what my sessions are designed to help you experience. Whether you’re just starting to explore this work or ready to dive deeper, there’s a simple next step waiting for you.
Free Resource
Receive My Free Guide: 7 Myths Adoptive & Foster Moms Are Told
You’re not broken — your nervous system is just tired. This free guide offers gentle, body-based ways to reset from survival mode and rediscover calm, even on the hard days. It’s a simple, supportive first step toward feeling more like yourself again.
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Ready When You Are
Your Journey to Calm Starts Here.
A single conversation is enough to know whether this is the right fit. A short, no-pressure conversation to share what’s been challenging and what you’d like to change. It’s the simplest way to ask questions and see if working together makes sense before booking any sessions.